{"id":7139,"date":"2013-06-12T21:12:46","date_gmt":"2013-06-13T01:12:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/?p=7139"},"modified":"2013-06-12T21:12:46","modified_gmt":"2013-06-13T01:12:46","slug":"a-love-story","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/?p=7139","title":{"rendered":"A love story"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#160;<\/p>\n<p>Growing up in a large family gives one perspective.&#160; I am number 6 of seven children.<\/p>\n<p>I saw relationships at work all around me- sibling, parental, partner, gender- there was<\/p>\n<p>always something going on.&#160; And because I was so much younger than my older sibs- I often<\/p>\n<p>had the opportunity to watch them go through many of the trials and changes in life and learn<\/p>\n<p>from their mistakes and wise choices.&#160; I saw rivalries and teamwork, watched them work out<\/p>\n<p>strategies and winced at some of the colossal fails.&#160;&#160;&#160; But I also watched my parents and took careful<\/p>\n<p>note of their relationship.&#160;&#160; <\/p>\n<p>My father loved my mother absolutely.&#160; Even when she was at her most contrary- he adored her.<\/p>\n<p>He would not always understand her- but he was in her corner as her greatest advocate.&#160; His instruction<\/p>\n<p>to me was invaria<strong>bly \u201c Mind your mother\u201d <\/strong>. <\/p>\n<p>&#160; My parents owned a greenhouse, but my father also worked a full time job, so a lot of the work and <\/p>\n<p>responsibility of running the greenhouse fell to my mother and my older brothers.&#160; My mom was a florist<\/p>\n<p>and made bouquets and corsages, funeral baskets and grave blankets- and she would transplant all the<\/p>\n<p>seedlings in the winter and spring.&#160; My father had a transplanting area set up for her in the back of the<\/p>\n<p>commercial greenhouse- in an alcove between the little greenhouse where he kept his special plants and <\/p>\n<p>the service room that housed the pots and flats and heaters and other paraphernalia that kept the business<\/p>\n<p>running efficiently.<\/p>\n<p>It was very much her area- the bench at the right height for her to plant without too much bending- a chair to<\/p>\n<p>ease her back- foam mats (always encrusted with soil) and lighting right above her station for the times when<\/p>\n<p>she had to plant into the night to keep up with the season.&#160; The greenhouse was where their partnership showed<\/p>\n<p>the most to me- they worked together to make it a success.<\/p>\n<p>So- when my husband called me into the front yard the other day and showed me this-<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/005.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"005\" style=\"border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px; background-image: none; border-bottom: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; padding-right: 0px\" border=\"0\" alt=\"005\" src=\"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/005_thumb.jpg\" width=\"729\" height=\"487\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>a planting station that he set up for me- it spoke to me of his love for me.<\/p>\n<p>He didn\u2019t really understand why I broke into tears- or why I kissed him so ferociously- but he was pleased that I was happy!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/006.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"006\" style=\"border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px; background-image: none; border-bottom: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; padding-right: 0px\" border=\"0\" alt=\"006\" src=\"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/006_thumb.jpg\" width=\"742\" height=\"496\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>My love language from my childhood&#160; eye-&#160; he provided a safe and comfortable space to plant the containers for our yard.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/024.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"024\" style=\"border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px; background-image: none; border-bottom: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; padding-right: 0px\" border=\"0\" alt=\"024\" src=\"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/024_thumb.jpg\" width=\"342\" height=\"229\" \/><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/007.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"007\" style=\"border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px; background-image: none; border-bottom: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; padding-right: 0px\" border=\"0\" alt=\"007\" src=\"http:\/\/www.heidiannie.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/007_thumb.jpg\" width=\"339\" height=\"227\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I planted up 14 different containers, my hands busy, my heart full, humming a happy little tune.&#160; <\/p>\n<p>Because I felt so loved.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#160; Growing up in a large family gives one perspective.&#160; I am number 6 of seven children. 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